This Chinese New Year, there is a lot to be thankful for.
More than the fruits, sticky food and long noodles, my family celebrates this day with a positive attitude every year.
I’d like to pause and think of the things to be thankful for in the past and things to hope for in the future.
First, I wake up every morning with a hopeful heart.
Last month the doctor said that I only have a month to live. Now, I’m still alive. I’m having crazy aches all over, most of the time but hey, at least I’m still alive. Some people who had a life deadline lasted for years. Why couldn’t I? So I’m trying to live my life in the best way I could. I’m making the most out of every conversation, every single day of my life.
Second, I realized that the story of my life have inspired a lot of people in the past and I’d like to inspire more people.
Coaching is a big part of my profession. I have always been invited to share snippets of my life to serve as an inspiration to the younger generation. I have to live longer to inspire more people. I was praised, valued and loved by the people whom I’ve inspired over the years but I was trashed by the woman I love. Then I realized that this is all about the lessons that we learn from every heartache, every pain, every fall. What inspires them is how do I rise up and move forward. I refuse to forget her or everything we had because she reminds me of how I managed to survive in this tough times like this. Too bad pain killers don’t cover heartaches but they as the saying goes, the way we think is our most effective drug.
Third, I opened my heart to trust other people.
I had enough drama when it comes to leaving. Being left alone is my greatest fear because I was left and ignored in most parts in my life. My recent experience in being left alone felt like I’m going through every sad memory about all the people who have left me in the past. However, this paved the way for me to appreciate the people who did not leave me in the middle of my hospitalization and medication. I learned how to trust other people. This may seem to be a gamble but you have to give your trust, to be able to be allow yourself to love again.
Everyday is still a painful day. Headache. Tummy ache. Knee ache. They are all aching just the same but these bring me more reasons to carry on.
Loneliness may steal me away sometimes but I choose to be happy.